“We Don’t need more Feminine Men, We Need More Conscious ALPHA Men.”
conscious Alpha
Creating a safe place for a man to be seen and heard, without pressure, stigma, judgement and with consideration around trauma to work through insecurities around, S$X, Money, Intimacy and relationships. Men Need Respect and Validation to feel safe and confident in themselves. There are 8 pillars needed for a man to truly feel internally and externally successful and safe. 1)Career/legacy 2)Personal Mastery 3) Health and Fitness; 4) Financial Security; 5) Relationships 6)Sex/Intimacy 7) Spirituality: inner healing 8)Love/Partnership
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Success and Achievement
Men are motivated by accomplishment and aspire to achieve goals in various aspects of their lives, including career, personal growth, finances, and intimacy. This drive often stems from a deep-seated desire for validation and a sense of purpose. In the professional realm, men may pursue promotions, skill acquisition, or entrepreneurial endeavors, aiming to establish their competence and worth. When Men are in a good place with their accomplishments, they are more open to being vulnerable, happy and empathetic.
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Relationships and Intimacy
Intimacy, Being A More Nuanced Area, Reflects Their Quest For Connection And Fulfillment In Relationships. This Can Manifest In The Desire For Deeper Emotional Bonds Or Fulfilling Sexual Experiences. Each Of These Domains Is Interlinked, As Success In One Area Often Propels Motivation In Another. Therefore, Understanding This Motivation Can Help Cultivate Environments Where Men Feel Supported And Encouraged To Pursue Holistic Achievement And Personal Satisfaction.
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Personal Growth and Development
In terms of personal growth, Men may seek to overcome limitations, engage in self-improvement practices, or explore avenues for emotional intelligence and resilience. Financial success often plays a critical role, influencing not only self-esteem but also the ability to provide and create a sense of security, confidence, self awareness and fulfillment.
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Authenticity and Fulfillment
Men often long for genuine connections and relationships. This longing can manifest in various ways, influencing their interactions with friends, family, romantic partners, and even their relationship with themselves.
To cultivate fulfilling and authentic connections, it's essential to explore deep-seated beliefs about vulnerability and intimacy. Many men have been conditioned to adopt a stoic facade, often sidelining their emotional needs and desires. Recognizing and challenging these patterns can open the door to richer relationships and deeper self-awareness.
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whole body health
The 8 Pillars of Health guide us in understanding well-being's complexity, highlighting that true wealth includes physical vitality, mental resilience, and emotional fulfillment. A healthy body supports a healthy mind, promoting clarity, vulnerability, and deeper connections. This interconnectedness nurtures intimate relationships based on love and self-acceptance. Prioritizing self-care and emotional intelligence is essential for genuine intimacy and sexual health, creating a fulfilling life rooted in self-love and connection. Embracing these pillars enhances personal well-being and fosters healthier relationships and communities.
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Emotional Fullfillment
Societal expectations and cultural pressures often create a demanding environment, where individuals feel compelled to conform to predefined roles and behaviors. This can lead to emotional suppression, as people may prioritize external approval over their inner needs. Limited support systems exacerbate this issue, leaving many without the necessary tools or resources to navigate their emotional landscapes.
These factors intersect to affect the 12 pillars of a person's life: emotional, social, spiritual, physical, financial, relational, environmental, intellectual, vocational, creative, recreational, and transcendent. Each pillar relies on a solid foundation of emotional well-being. When individuals struggle with societal pressures and unhealed trauma, it becomes increasingly difficult to nurture these areas, resulting in a lack of balance and fulfillment.
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Inner Peace and Wellbeing
Men seek inner peace and wellbeing through practices for emotional balance and health, including stress management techniques like mindfulness, meditation, and exercise. Self-care is vital, nurturing mental, sexual, physical, and emotional health. Open conversations about feelings foster connections and support vulnerability. Healthy habits—balanced nutrition, exercise, and sleep—boost physical health and resilience. Exploring sexuality in a safe, consensual environment enhances self-acceptance and confidence. Managing relationships strengthens connections and belonging. A comprehensive health approach, integrating mind and body, is essential for men pursuing inner peace and emotional equilibrium. Professional guidance in trauma and emotional health aids this journey toward self-discovery.
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Unhealed Trauma - Past Expectations
Unhealed trauma from the past can profoundly impact one's emotional fulfillment. When individuals carry unresolved pain, it can manifest in various ways, hindering their ability to form meaningful connections and achieve personal growth. The expectations set by family, society, or even oneself can create a cycle of disappointment and frustration.
Recognizing these influences is the first step toward healing. By addressing emotional suppression, seeking supportive relationships, and working through past traumas, individuals can begin to reconstruct the pillars of their lives. Each step toward self-acceptance and healing has the potential to create a ripple effect, enhancing overall well-being and emotional fulfillment.
My work is integrated. It involves and combines your Unique Blueprint around intimacy, Business, relationship and genius. Tantric/taoist wisdom, psychotherapy, creative, expressive and embodiment work, Primal, Erotic shadow work, inner child, polyvagal theory coaching, somatic work, breathwork, and mindfulness activities. This program will allow you to become aware of your subconscious program and story, gain a deeper connection to your purpose, intimate and sexual needs, fears, and desires. Heal any underlying trauma, addictions, and attachment where you understand yourself on a S$XUAL, PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL and EMOTIONAL level. release deep layers of shame and guilt where you will feel Sexually Embodied, Confident and Expressed
· Inner Child and trauma practices to Address and heal any childhood and adult trauma including parental relationships, so that we can become our own person, attract intimacy and work through self-worth, rejection, and abandonment triggers.
. deep Life purpose and money work to understand you limiting beliefs and reprogram to live your highest version
· Understand attachments and your money story on a deeper level why you overwork, avoid, distrust and don’t ask for help
· Work through Love addiction and understand why you either avoid or become co-dependent.
· Know your inner critic on a deeper level so you can see when it tries to sabotage you. E.g., not feeling worthy or good enough in one area, so you compromise yourself in other areas, e.g. You don’t know who you are and look through the eyes of another to gain sense of self, so we seek validation in a myriad of ways.
· Gain a deep Understanding in attachment theory and parental relationships and how this can impact your intimate and personal relationships as an adult.
· Find clarity, passion, direction, and values in your life allowing for an intentional life in your purpose and business. Men spend their whole life working it is very important that they are doing what they love and most of the time they may not even know if they enjoy doing what they do, because of the burden in responsibilities.
· Polyvagal work to understand how your body responds to stress, sex, safety, and connection.
· Female Sexual education to connect to your partner deeper.
· MONEY, BUSINESS and Erotic blueprints to understand what you have come here to overcome, learn, and offer the world – digging deeper into your money story.
· Learn Tantra, Taoist, shame-work, erotic blueprint, sexual education Practices (including male sublimation) Intimacy enhancing and communication techniques; that allow you to expand your Sexual, sensual pleasure, safety and worldview thereby increasing sexual desire
- Be held in a safe space to self-reflect distorted beliefs due to the inner critical voice; work through shame and be able to communicate anger, insecurity, sadness
- Appreciation of foreplay which stops the worry of performance
- Understand and connect to yourself on a deeper level heal any underlying anger, insecurity, sadness
- Have the ability to know and communicate your needs, fantasies and desire, because you know yourself and your body.
- Feel safe to be vulnerable and intimate in a loving, caring and committed relationship.
· Erotic Blueprints and how this can support awareness and connection including verbalising and understanding your unique pleasure points, which will help you express your sexual and intimate needs also, creating the same space for your partner.
· Embodiment, creative and expressive practices to be more connected, creativity, confident and in your whole being.
· Primal work to release any repressed emotions.
· Breathwork and other mindfulness practices so become fully embodied.
· Empowerment and motivation work where we know ourselves on the deepest of levels; so, we can feel more emotionally and sexually confident, fell more self-aware, feel more expressed, embodied, and content, build a healthy body and mind.
· Shadow work to connect to your unconscious mind; uncovering the parts of yourself that you repress and hide from yourself (this can be confronting)
The benefits of shadow work
- Gain more confidence and self-esteem
- Improve your creativity
- Develop deep and more intimate relationships with others
- Self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-actualisation
- Improve mental, emotional, and physical wellness
- Increased compassion for others
- More focused, clear, and intentional
“I am so grateful that I met you and asked your help. Your insight is remarkable, it feels as though you have known me intrinsically for a long time even though we have just met. I really appreciate the balance of honesty you bring that supports and boosts me immediately as well as causes me to pause and reflect on myself, my relationships, and business.
I also want to thank you for always being there, your wisdom and kindness has carried me through uncertain topics and times and given me clarity to proceed in a very helpful caring way. Using the gene keys has been particularly informative. Understanding my full profile clarified some of the mysteries of life that I felt inside but could not articulate fully. Your explanation of how that has shaped and impacts my life has helped me form plans and make meaningful changes in so many ways.
I enjoy looking back on my map and thinking of the discussions we have had a thinking how that is setting the tone for a more satisfying way of being. It has given me focus on what is truly meaningful to me to succeed in many areas of life. It is easy to see how much you care about the people you help and how seriously you take your work. I’m grateful to be one of them.
The work you do is important and so appreciated.
With all my love
Ben”